Handbook for Parents 2
Communication between separated/divorced parents

Resolving conflicts Tips

• There is no need to bring up the past. Avoid any unfriendly languages. Respect your ex-partner and their personal space. Do not interfere with their private lives.


• Acknowledge that your relationship has ended, but you and your ex-partner are still the parents of your children.


• Embrace the new partnership with your ex-partner as the parents of your children, and build this partnership with the mutual love and care you both have for your children.


• Draw a clear line between what you want and what your children need. Understand and respect that your children may have their own way to interact with your ex-partner.


• Let go of old grudges and focus on building this new partnership with your ex-partner. Try to look for the good things he/she has done for your children from a new angle. Show your recognition and appreciation when he/she helps your children with their homework, picks them up for their after school activities etc.


• Your children can learn great things from you through how well you manage the conflicts between you and your ex-partner. This can also boost up their trust and confidence on you to take good care of them and move on.