Handbook for Parents 1
Impact of separation and divorce
3) My children
What will help the children most - things that parents can do
- Make sure your children understand they are not the faults to this separation.
- Try not to express inhospitality towards your ex-partner when your children are around.
- Stay silent if there is nothing positive to say about your ex-partner.
- Do not expose your children to the anger or conflicts with your ex-partner.
- Despite the disagreements between you and your ex-partner, try to align on the same direction in parenting, at least in front of the children.
- Cherish the time you get to spend with your children.
- Ensure them that there is nothing wrong with loving the other parent as well.
- Do not blame your ex-partner for your children’s anxiety, fears and problems. Do not complain to either your children or ex-partner.
- Try your very best to help your children cope with the separation/divorce, and ensure them that there is no need to feel ashamed by the separation/divorce.
- Do not introduce your children to too many changes at once.
- Manage the chores systematically so that you can still manage the household properly without your ex-partner.
- Do not quiz your children on who they love more or whom they want to live with more.
- Encourage your children to continue their daily routines and activities.
- Do not give them false hope or angrily deny them for wanting to see you and your ex-partner getting back together though it is their wish. Maintain your calmness.
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